When tabby balks at being picked up, the problem could be how you lift or hold him. A common mistake is to pick your cat up by the scruff of her neck. In practice, the only time it’s acceptable is in order to save its life.
When we brought my first-born home, he cried hour after hour, day and night. Since I was an only child, I didn’t know what to do. Some friends advised me to pick him up when he cried. Others assured me he needed to cry to exercise his lungs, and I should let him cry himself to sleep..