Babies cry for all sorts of reasons. Hunger. Thirst. Discomfort. Sometimes just to exercise their lungs.
When we brought my first-born home, he cried almost constantly. Since I was an only child, I didn’t know what to do. Some friends and family said “pick him up when he cries.” Others advised me to let him cry.
With all the conflicting advice, I became completely stressed. Soon, I was picking him up every two hours. I would feed him, change him, and hold him until I was exhausted. The result was a baby that cried constantly because babies sense when their mom is stressed as she holds them.
Finally, at wits end, I called the county nurse. When she arrived, I put my son down. Of course, he started crying immediately. I jumped up to go get him, tears streaming down my face. The county nurse told me to sit down again. “But he’s crying,” I sobbed.
“I can hear him,” she said. “Before you go get him, I want to ask you a few questions. It will only take a couple of minutes.”
She started asking her questions. I quit crying. About five minutes later, she said, “Listen.”
“I don’t hear anything,” I said.
“Exactly,” she said. She was smiling. I smiled, too. My infant son was fast asleep. She explained to me that my constant picking him up and putting him down had confused and exhausted him. He slept for six hours. The problem was solved. Sometimes he would cry a little when I put him down, but never for long.
If you have a "fussy baby", try it. Of course, first you should check with your pediatrician to be sure there is no physical reason for the constant crying.
Enjoy your baby, but remember, you are the Mom. Many times throughout your lives together, what is right for him will seem to be the exact opposite of what he wants you to do. If you are doing the right things most of the time, feel safe. Follow your heart.
Ask yourself if what you want to do in any situation, will:
- Not matter at all.
If your answer is anything other than the first answer, follow your heart.