Babies cry for all sorts of reasons. Hunger. Thirst. Discomfort. Sometimes just to exercise their lungs.
When we brought my first-born home, he cried almost constantly. Since I was an only child, I didn’t know what to do. Some of my friends and family said “pick him up when he cries” and others advised to let hm cry. With all the conflicting advice, I became completely stressed. Soon, I was picking him up every two hours, feeding him, changing him, and holding him until I was exhausted. The result was a baby that cried constantly because babies do sense when you are holding them and you don’t want to.
Finally, one day, at wits end, I called the county nurse. She came over and when she arrived, I put my son down. Of course he started crying almost immediately. I jumped up to go get him, tears streaming down my face and the county nurse told me to sit down again. “But he’s crying,” I sobbed.
“I can hear him,” she said. “Before you go get him, I want to ask you a few questions. It will only take a couple of minutes.”
She started asking her questions. I quit crying. About five minutes later, she said, “Listen.”
“I don’t hear anything,” I said.
“Exactly,” she said. She was smiling. I smiled, too.
My infant son was fast asleep. She explained to me that all my picking him up and putting him down had confused and exhausted him. He slept for six hours. I never had the problem again. Sometimes he would cry a little when I put him down, but never for long.
Try it. Of course, if this doesn’t work for you, check with your pediatrician to be sure there is no physical reason for the constant crying.
Enjoy your baby, but remember, you are the Mom. Many times throughout his life, you will need to do what is right (yes best) for him which will be exactly contrary to what he wants you to do. If you are doing all the right things most of the time, feel safe to follow your heart.
Ask yourself if what you want to do in any situation, will:
- not make any difference.
If your answer is anything other than the first answer, follow your heart.